I'm writing this for someone who asked about motivation - you know who you are.  I'm writing this as a blog post instead of simply an e-mail or a phone call because I think that more than one can use this information.  If this doesn't suit your needs and you need more specific information, please e-mail me.  This blog post is about what motivation is (so, we're all on the same page), why people don't have motivation and how they can get it. 

Motivation is the inner drive to get up and do what you need to do.  Motivation is individual, since we all have different goals and dreams.  Motivation is what makes the world go around.  Without motivation, we would not have the modern technologies we have, good or bad.  Everyone is motivated for some reason, to do something.

Many people lack motivation to do what it takes to make it to our dreams because we humans want what is most pleasurable.  Epicurius was a philosopher who taught people to do what was most pleasurable and enjoyable.  We still have a lot of that in our world today.  For motivation to be effective, you have to have a reason to do what you need to do.  For example, many of us get up and get ready to go to a job each day because we want to pay our bills, have a car, have an apartment/house, go out to have fun on the weekends, or basically do whatever we desire now.

There are a couple of different ways to get motivated to do what we want to do, either focus exclusively on a dream that will make it so compelling for us to do what we need to, or focus on the alternative, what would happen if we don't make our dreams come true.  The first technique was inspired by Bob Proctor and the second technique is inspired by Jeffrey Sooey.  Both techniques work, but, the question is, which technique will work best FOR YOU?  Try both techniques if you need to.  Whichever works best for you is the right technique for you.

There are SO many things that Bob Proctor teaches about dreams and goals, so I'll try to summarize the most important points for motivation.  It starts with a dream.  If you need help figuring out what you want the very most, do the following exercise.  If you already know, you can skip it.  Just sit and brainstorm for 5-10 minutes of all the things you'd do or have if time and money were no object, with NO JUDGEMENTS about if you'll ever have/do these.  Then, look through your list and choose what you want more than anything else on that list.  That's your dream. 

Then, write down a detailed description of your life, as if you had that dream in your life right now.  Then, every day, and many times a day, read that detailed description of your dream and life as if it were real now, while feeling how you'd feel if you had that dream now.  Change this description as often as you need to.  The more you feel as if the dream were real in the physical sense NOW, the more motivated you will be to do what you need to do to get to your dream.

Jeffrey Sooey has been coaching for 13 years and this is a technique that works for him.  He asks a lot of questions.  Some sample questions he asks is: What is your biggest struggle when it comes to motivation?  What do you think you need to do in order to turn your situation around?  What is preventing you from doing what you need to do?  Keep asking yourself those questions until you get to the heart of the problem - what's REALLY stopping you.  Once you come up with your truth that you want to change, think of what would happen if you DIDN'T get on a different path than the one you're on? 

The answer has to be painful enough for you that it will start giving you the motivation you need.  An example could be that if you don't change where you're going you won't become the person you'd like to be and after you die you'll look at the person you could have been and have that regret forever.  I don't know what that pain is for you, but, you do, if you think about it long enough.  At what point will you say, "OK, I've had it!  I'm not doing this anymore."  Remembering the pain of not acting, if painful enough, will give you the motivation to do what you need to do. 

After you've decided your pain, come up with an action plan.  What will keep you on this path, and not going back to your old ways?  Brainstorm, and write down, solutions to those distractions on the path toward your goal.  Maybe use those distractions as rewards.  Say that your distraction is Facebook and your goal is building a business.  Possibly after an hour of working toward your business, you can get on Facebook for 15 minutes.  Whatever you do, commit to it.  Even better to find someone you can be accountable to each day, to keep you on your new path.

To summarize, motivation is what gets us to do what we need to do.  There are a couple of techniques I'll share for motivation.  Bob Proctor's solution for lack of motivation is pick a dream, write a detailed description, read it daily and live as if it were real.  Jeffrey Sooey's solution to lack of motivation is choose a negative thing that causes pain if you think about not making your dreams.  Then you come up with an action plan to keep you on track, since old habits die hard.

Please let me know if this helps you, or if you need a little more help in carrying your favorite plan of action out.

Lisa Starr
Life/Corporate Coach

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