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This is another way to say, my dream.  Yet, it isn't JUST my dream.  It is my dream written out in every detail, read out loud by myself and put on a recording that I listen to at least once a day.  This can either apply to your life or your business/job.

Why would I put that much effort into something that may or may not come true?  So it DOES come true.  Bob Proctor mentions that if you SEE and WANT a goal, whatever it is, those are the first steps to attaining any goal you want.  Want a new car?  See and want it.  Want a million dollars?  See it and want it.  Want an AWESOME relationship?  See it and want it.  Want to loose weight?  See it and want it.  Of course, there are other steps, that Bob mentions on his Goal Achiever series, but this is a start.

Another thing about my script, is, as my dream changes, I also change the written description and verbally spoken picture of my dream in my mind.  Bob Proctor recommends changing the written description and re-narrate your voice daily.  This makes sure that when your subconscious mind leads you in the direction of your dream, and that it's the dream you truly want.

So, now that I've talked about your dream, how do you know what it is that you really want?  Dream.  Ask yourself two questions and see what comes flying out of your mind.  These two questions are: 1. What if time and money were no object, what would you do with your time and your money? and 2.  What would you do if you knew you could NOT fail?

I know that listening to My Script and rewriting and re-narrating it often helps me focus on my dream.  It helps me to know what I really want, to know what I'm really working for.

I'd like to help YOU also have a life that you dream!

Lisa Starr
Life/Corporate Coach

 
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We all know our physical muscles/senses: touch, taste, hearing, seeing, and smelling.  Yet how many of us know our mental muscles.  These are the parts of ourselves that we often don't strengthen.  Yet, if we do, our lives are a lot stronger, in various ways.

I don't know how else to introduce them.  Let's just delve into it.  Our mental muscles are (drumroll): reason, imagination, perspective, memory and intuition.  Now that I've mentioned them, think of how powerful these mental muscles are if we use them.  They make our lives a whole lot richer.

Reason is our thinking ability.  This is what sets humans apart from the rest of the animal kingdom.  There are other animals that talk, walk, use sign language and do many other things that we humans do.  Yet, try to think of a single animal that can reason.  I can't think of any, can you?

Imagination is very powerful, as we can all agree.  According to the Law of Attraction, it's your imagination that is a very important part of the creative process.  What you imagine, if believed in and worked smart enough, YOU CAN ACHIEVE!  Imagination is another word for visualization.  Some would say that to imagine is the only real thinking.

Perspective is a valuable asset.  Writers and readers know the importance of perspective.  For example, the book Wizard of Oz is a very different book than Wicked, which is also a very different story than The Great and Powerful Oz.  Yet, the story and characters are pretty much the same, but the emphasis placed on different parts of the story, or different characters in this case.  The more we are able to see others' points of view, the more we can get the whole picture.

Memory is a mental muscle probably most forgotten.  Many people say they have a bad memory, yet, memory is simply a muscle.  If I don't have strong triceps muscles, generally I would do different exercises to strengthen that group of muscles.  Why don't we think about strengthening our memory, though we probably know of others with Alzheimer's Disease or Dementia (common products of not strengthening that mental muscle)?

Last and certainly not least is intuition.  We probably use this more as a whole, without realizing it.  Let's say a teenager walks into the door and a mother asks, "What's wrong?" and the teen says, "Nothing."  It's the intuitive mental muscle that tells you there's something wrong in the first place.  We learn many things in social settings based on our intuition.  Sometimes our self-esteem is aided or hindered through what we feel intuitively is others' reactions to us.

Now that you know that these mental muscles exist, if you didn't before, what do you do with that knowledge?  I could tell you exercises to try, but why not think of some games yourself?  It will be much more fun and will stick more in your head that way.

If you still need help, feel free to e-mail me.

Lisa Starr
Life/Business Coach
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OK, so the diagram Bob Proctor uses doesn't look like this, but I think this is funny.  The diagram Bob Proctor uses looks more like a small stick person body with a large stick person head that's divided in half.  He got the concept from a man named Leland Van Dewall, but the concept, as far as Proctor knows, is from a man named Thruman Fleet.

So, picture the three parts: conscious mind, subconscious mind and the body.  The conscious mind is what we know on the surface - what we think and reason about.  It is where our free will lies.  We are most familiar with this part of our mind.  I like to also relate it to a book The Ant and the Elephant by Vince Pocente that I like to read.  The ant is portrayed as the conscious mind in the book.  It's the thinking and reasoning part of our personality.  It is our thoughts, in a nutshell.

The subconscious mind is like the second part of our personality.  In a nutshell, the subconsious mind is our feelings.  It is the elephant portrayed in the Ant and the Elephant.  It is the part of us that is big and slow to change because it remembers everything that ever happened, the good and the bad.  In our subconscious mind lies our paradigms, our deeply held beliefs.  It is because of what goes on in our subconscious mind that sometimes we hit a "wall" that we can't break out of. 

The body is the "manifestation of what's going on in the mind" as Bob Proctor states.  It is, in a nutshell, the actions we take, based on what's going on in our conscious and subconscious mind.  If we're going to change, we need to know what's going on inside as well as what's going on outside, Proctor also mentions.  The body takes us where our mind thinks we need to go.  Our body is what everyone sees, the physical part of us. 

Basically, the more we understand about the three parts of our personality, the easier it is for us to change and become the person we'd like to become.  We need all parts to help us in this effort.  Every part of our personality has an important job to do, if you will, in getting us to be where we need to go.

I hope this makes a little bit of sense.  Either way, let me know if you need help understanding or have comments on this concept.

Lisa Starr
Life / Corporate Coach
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Bob Proctor is the in the middle.
I'll try to be careful as to how much I share, since I don't want to take away from his wonderful programs.  I would consider him my biggest mentor, and I'd invite you to learn more about him, if you don't already know him.  He is a very wise man who has studied and lived personal development techniques for 47 years.

First, I'd like to introduce how I know him and what I know about his background.  I know him as one of the philosophers who spoke on the movie The Secret.  If you have not watched the movie or read the book by Rhonda Byrnes, I definitely recommend it.  It is basically a book/movie about how to most effectively live life to achieve your dreams (whatever those dreams may be).  I later, because of this previous knowledge, got introduced to him via daily video recordings in a program he does called Six Minutes to Success (www.sixminutestosuccess.com), in which he talks about a thought-provoking principle for a minute a day and invites you to think on that principle for 5 additional minutes, plus, think on it throughout the day.  I later got introduced to his Goal Achiever's program that teaches about your mind, how to create in your life, why and how to set and achieve goals, what goals to prioritize and focus on in your life, and ultimately, how to achieve your dreams.  I'm now working on getting funding for his Thinking Into Results program.

I'm sure there are many more things you can learn about him, more of a biography, online.  However, this is what he's shared about himself on some of his webinars.  At one point in his life, he was making $4,000 a year working as a custodian (I believe it was).  Then, he realized he wanted more in his life but didn't  know how to get there.  After listening to one of his first mentors and reading a book (I think it was Think and Grow Rich by Napolean Hill), his income rose significantly the next year, and I think he was doing the same thing as a profession.  He's grown and learned to become better and better, and helped thousands of people to do the same, ever since.  That rags to riches inspired me to believe I can do the same thing.

Although there are many more things I could teach, I want to focus on what I've learned:
  • The three parts to our personality
  • Our mental muscles
  • My Script
  • I'm happy and grateful that...
  • Why and how to best achieve goals
  • Whatever else I can say, without giving too much away
Why am I sharing this?  In my coaching, my goal is to be able to share more of his teachings, as I feel they apply to every person, no matter your race, creed, religion, profession, etc.  They have benefited me so much that I wanted to share some of what I learn with others.  I also want to pique your interest into finding more about him and his philosophies.

The next few blog posts will be about the above concepts.


Lisa Starr

Life/Corporate Coach

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We can get our advice from many places.  We can get our advice from friends, family members, acquaintances, strangers, online and many other place.  Do you get your advice from trained professionals?  Maybe, but probably not.  Why not?

Chances are, you either feel you don't need help or that you do, but don't have extra money.  Or, possibly, you don't see the value in paying money to get advice.  Especially when you can get it for free from so many people.

Why pay for something you can get for free?  Because you usually get what you pay for.  If you don't get good advice, you probably get what you pay for.  Yet, if you pay good money, you're more likely to get good advice.  The money you pay a trained professional mostly goes toward the training of the individuals so they can GIVE good advice.  It can be very useful to pay to get better advice.

Give me a try.  Remember that you can try me out for free by e-mailing me with what I can help you. I'm looking forward to getting to know you a little better.


Lisa Starr
Life/Corporate Coach

 
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Is your life going as you hoped?  Is everything the way you expected?  Chances are, no, unless you honestly EXPECTED your life this way.  It's not enough to simply HOPE or DREAM for a better life - you have to EXPECT it to be that way if you want your life to really change.  Positive expectation is a part of any dreamer who has achieved their dreams.  Ask anyone who has.  They'll tell you in different words, but everyone of them will tell you that they expected to be where they are.

To get a little personal, things in my life aren't going as I had hoped.  I want to have more than I have.  Not just for the sake of wanting, but I have dreams of what I want to do in order to help others and ultimately help this world be a better place.  But, I also know that I need to be more than I am and do more than I'm doing to have more.  I know that as I change the way I look at things, the things I look at change.  I have a lot of head knowledge, but it takes more self-discipline to turn that into knowledge that will guide my life.

To get back into expectancy, for dreams to be successful achievements in your life, they must become a part of your life in your mind before they ever become a part of your life physically.  This is something else Bob Proctor teaches.  We need to visualize us as we are in our perfect world.  Let me make this important distinction: it's not enough to simply WANT.  The feeling of WANTING is very different in your body physically that BELIEVING. 

Try it - think of something you WANT very badly.  Fully experience that feeling of WANTING.  Feel the emotions and the intensity of those emotions while you think about how badly you want that thing/experience.  Close your eyes while you do this to shut out any other distraction.  Now, imagine that you HAVE that thing/experience you pictured wanting a minute ago.  Picture in your mind's eye, with your eyes closed, what it feels like to HAVE right NOW what you want.  Experience those emotions fully.

Did you feel the difference?  I sure do.  The way I describe it to myself is that when I WANT something - it's more of an aching, a reaching, a pain inside that I don't have it.  Yet, when I feel that I HAVE something I want, it's more of a peace, a calm, a knowing.  I'd love to hear your explanation of the differences of how you felt during that exercise.

Basically, my point in saying all of this is that if you want things to change, start EXPECTING instead of simply WANTING.  I know what you're thinking, "But I don't know how to make it happen" or "I don't know how to believe something that isn't here."  Well, as Abraham Lincoln says, "Believing in what you can see and hear is no belief at all, but believing what you can't see and hear is a triumph and a blessing."  Just start by trying.  Try to believe that what you want is already here and the way will present itself.  If you keep feeling good, as if you already HAVE it, you will get thoughts and feelings of what you should do toward your goal, DO THEM.   Believe in yourself.  That is your subconscious mind (or the Holy Spirit, if you will) guiding you toward your next step to reaching that goal.  That's the way Bob Proctor describes that part of the Law of Attraction, anyway.  It's a Law of the Universe, and, similar to the Law of Gravity, it works EVERY TIME, if you work it.

If you need help, you know where to find me.

Lisa Starr
Life/ Corporate Coach
[email protected]

 
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Are there conflicts in your life?  Maybe that conflict is with others or maybe it is with yourself.  Maybe there is a combination of both.  Maybe you don't have either - in which case, you're lucky. 

If the conflict is with family, co-workers or friends, it can get quite heated.  Doesn't it seems like you get more angry/ frustrated at those that are closest to you or that you are around most often?  Personalities conflict, emotions rage when relationships are involved.  Sometimes it's easy to solve, and sometimes it takes a while to get solved.  Sometimes, it doesn't get solved at all.  Many families are broken up because of different families' disputes. 

If the conflict is inside yourself, between two different choices in your life, that can cause inner turmoil.  What is the best choice for you?  What is the best choice for those around you?  What if they're both good choices for you but they conflict in time and energy, so you can only choose one.  There are many solutions and problems that can put you in internal turmoil.  I think more conflicts are actually with ourselves than with others.  Maybe I'm wrong.  You can think about it and let me know what you think.

If you need any help with internal or external conflicts, please let me know.  I'd love to help.

Lisa Starr
Life/Corporate Coach
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This time of year with so many holidays in a row is great business for retailers, but for other companies, business may be slower than usual.  Many people are in holiday mode, not apartment/house hunting or car hunting possibly unless it's a gift for a family member.

Recovering from the holiday loss can be tricky, but can be overcome.  The beginning of the year is a good time for games or promotions for employees/business partners.  A new year is a good time to start again.

I just learned that Christmas in Yugoslavia is on December 31 and one of their traditions is throwing away old dishes that are chipped that day.  Maybe the end of the year is a good time to get rid of old clutter or non-productive habits.  Maybe non-productive employees either need to be removed from the company or re-trained.  An untrained employee is an easy solution to a possibly lingering problem.

The best way to figure out what needs to be done is to think about when your business is most productive.  It may be a different time of year, but what is going on with the organization or employees/business partners when the company is most productive?  Is it during a game?  Is it just after a company retreat?  Is it just after a corporate evaluation when they can relax?  Only you can know the answer to that.

Yet, I can help you with your company.  Maybe it'll just take a little nudge to get your company back on track.  Don't be afraid to ask for help.  You won't regret it.

Lisa Starr
Life/Corporate Coach
[email protected]

 
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Even if you don't celebrate Christmas, read on.  There are some thought-provoking questions later.

Yesterday was Christmas for the USA.  Many people were gathering with friends and family for the annual celebration of brotherhood, Santa Claus, and, of course, Jesus Christ's birth.  We usually give each other gifts in memory of when the Wise Men gave Jesus Christ gifts and also for Christ's gift to us.

Were you happy with the gifts you got, or the reaction of those you gave?  Were you happy with the food, the company, and all of the festivities of the day?  If everything turned out well for you, you're lucky.  I think many of us had setbacks in food, gifts or family.  Hopefully, the disappointments you may have experienced were only minor.

Yet, maybe you have disappointments in life, not only in this holiday season.  Do you have major disappointments in your life from which you have not recovered?  Are there some losses which you can't quite get past?  I'm not trying to make loss sound like a simple thing you can just "get over."  You may not ever "get over" the losses you've experienced, but you can move past them for a fuller life.  Now, I don't mean forget about them, I mean cope with them in a way that you can still have successes in your life despite the losses you've experienced.

I have some ways that I can help you, but I can't help you personally or professionally unless I know your individual circumstances.  Please let me help you.

Lisa Starr
Life/Corporate Coach
[email protected]

 
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Whether you celebrate Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, New Year's Day or some other holiday, there are treats and fattening food traditions with all of those holidays.  In fact, I don't know of many holidays we celebrate with friends and family at which that is not the case.  Yet, this is the time of the year when more fattening holidays are piled up back to back than any other times of the year.

How do you deal with the extra pounds/kilograms you put on your body?  Some people exercise, others starve themselves after the holidays, some don't even take all of those sweets/fattening foods into their bodies in the first place, and some take diet pills.  I'm not here to tell you which one is right or wrong (besides, I think you already know).  I would simply advocate for water.

Whichever of the above you choose to do, water helps us to keep healthy.  Our body is nearly 70% water and, if you choose to take in those extra holiday calories, water can help break it down and your body to expel the unnecessary things from your body.  Simply drinking two glasses of water right when you get up in the morning can, in and of itself, help you loose weight.

If water, drinking 1/2 gallon (which is 8 cups of water) to a gallon, is simply not cutting off the weight, try exercise as well.  You're not trying to run a marathon here, just trying to shed some extra weight.  It's recommended to exercise moderately for 30 minutes a day most days of the week for health and weight control.  More is better, of course, but start where you can.

If water and exercise is not cutting it, maybe you're taking in too many calories for the amount of activity you do each day.  If you don't burn off the calories through activity that you take in each day, try cutting it down.  The portions at fast food restaurants are WAY TOO LARGE, but, if you just have to have your burgers and fries, try a kid's meal.  Those portions are more what we need and most fast food restaurants don't ask whether or not you have kids when buying a kids' meal.

If these above suggestions aren't working, or you don't have enough self control to do the suggestions, maybe we need to talk.  There may be a reason subconsciously that you are keeping the weight.  Maybe it's a defense tactic or a way to have control in a life of chaos.  I don't know, but let me help you figure it out.

Lisa Starr
Life/Corporate Coach
[email protected]