Here it is, just a few days before Christmas, and, even if you don't celebrate Christmas, maybe there was a time in your life that you did.  Or,  maybe, you celebrate another holiday this time of a year.  Either way, I ask, in another way, how are you doing?

Maybe there was a loss in the family you haven't quite gotten over.  Maybe you've never celebrated the holidays like you'd like to because of a job, etc.  Maybe there's simply built up frustration over being expected to celebrate the holidays when you don't feel like it.  Maybe you're physically ill and the holidays don't matter this year?

Whatever the reason, maybe you just need someone to talk to.  Help is only an e-mail away.

If you just don't feel quite right, but don't know why, maybe a brainstorm would help.  Think of all the ways you are feeling or all of the things you are thinking about.  Do this for 5 minutes.  Then analyze what you wrote down might mean.  That could help you at least understand.

Maybe you know what it is.  If it was a loss, maybe writing that loved one a letter could help.  Maybe screaming out loud will help.  Possibly a good cry will help.  I don't know what will help, but maybe you do.

This could be a time of peace and happiness.  Will you allow it to be?  If you need help with that, you know where to come.

Lisa Starr
Life/Corporate Coach
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I am, but I don't force my beliefs on others.  I know I post many things about the Universe and don't mention God in my posts much.  I do that to appeal to everyone, but I know that it's God that really gives us our dreams.  It's not really us earning our dreams, rit's Him putting things into place so our dreams can come true.

When I mention about being a Christian, I mean believing in Christ as my Savior.  I mean that Jesus Christ, who came over two thousand years ago, is the man who will save us from spiritual death. 

To me, there are too many evidences of His existence for me to deny Him.  I can state things in a different way, but the fact of the matter is, I believe in Him.  There's no scientific proof He exists, but there's too much personal proof I have to deny it.

Why do I mention this?  Why does it matter?  When you speak with me and you let me know you're a Christian, I'll know how to counsel with you better.  If you let me know you're not, I'll also know how to help you the best way as well.  It just helps me know how to speak with you.  I know a way to help Christians and those who are not alike.

I simply like to help others, however I can.  I'd just like to get to know YOU and how I can help.  Please let me help you.

Lisa Starr
Life/Corporate Coach
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e Think about it - how would you like to help people and make money at the same time?  Yet, how many of you do it?  You may not even realize it, but nurses, doctors, CNAs, Recreation Therapists, Physical Therapists, Occupational Therapists, Family Counselors and so many professions already do that.  Be grateful if you have a job like that.

Yet, have you ever thought about starting a business where you can help another.  You could be a life coach.  You could have a daycare in your home.  What do you really enjoy?  How can you make money while you help others.  There are many businesses that can accomplish this, as well as many jobs.

Have you ever considered Network Marketing, a way to make money as well as making friends and solving problems.  There are many different companies that need you, from which you can benefit and to which you can give your talents.

If none of the above interest you, think about what might interest you in which you can make money.  The best solution to any problem can be answered by YOU.  Others can give advice, but only YOU know all of your different circumstances and needs.  I suggest you brainstorm and ACT on that brainstorm.  You won't be sorry.  All you can be is happy.  Life is too short NOT to be happy.

If you need help figuring out what might be best for you, it will take time, but you're worth it.  Simply reach out.

Lisa Starr
Life/Co

Do you think of your future much?  Do you wonder what your life will be like in 5, 10, 20 years?  Maybe you think it will be more of the same.  Maybe you think it will be wonderful.  Maybe you think it will be horrible.  As Henry Ford said, "Whether you think you are right or you think you are wrong, you are right."
To me, this means that attitude really has a lot of bearing on our future.

To help my daily attitude, I have made it a habit in my life to listen to a recording of myself spelling out all of my dreams, my life the way I want it, on a daily basis (as recommended by Bob Proctor).  I try to do it in the morning, since that's when my mind is most active.  One of my dreams is to take my family on a cruise to Hawaii on the Disney Cruise ship.  I like to watch the Disney Cruise ship video weekly, to remind myself of that goal and help me visualize.  One part of the video that really strikes me is one of the restaurants on the ship.  It's called "Animator's Palate."  The way it works is that the walls look black and white when you walk in before the meal begins.  Throughout the meal, the wall becomes a color wall, little by little.  After listening to my dreams this morning, I realized that my life now is like the black and white wall.  The things that I'm dealing with in my life seem so urgent, so crucial, but in a year or so, it won't even matter.  It's all a facade.  My future, my dream life, is like the color wall.  It is simply my duty, as a dreamer of the future, to dream, visualize, believe, work, sweat, figure out solutions to problems, enjoy every moment along the journey until that black and white wall becomes a color wall in my life.  What really matters most is the long lasting, the things (or people) that I will still care about in 5, 10, 20 years.

Many of you have heard of "The Secret" or "The Law of Attraction" and misunderstand it.  The FIRST part of the Law of Attraction is to believe, visualize, and think as if your future is your reality NOW.  The SECOND part, after completing the first part, is to work.  Belief, thoughts, and visualizations in an of themselves are NOT going to get you to your dreams.  But, they do put you on the best frequency so you most effectively know HOW to accomplish what you need to accomplish to get you to your dreams.  Think of frequency as a radio station.  When you're in between stations, you can't clearly hear the music (or talk, if you listen to talk radio), yet if you're completely on the right station, you hear everything more clearly.  When you simply FEEL GOOD, that makes it easier for you to feel inside which is the correct next step to take to reach your goal.  Whether you believe it is God, another higher power, the Universe, your true self, or whatever else is guiding you, doesn't matter.  What matters most is that you take that guidance, if you want to reach your goals.  When you do that, you will be doing the work it takes to get to your dreams. 

If any of this makes sense, you have questions, want to share your dreams, or have a comment to make, please make it here or e-mail me.  I'd love to help.  I offer free 30-minute coaching sessions, if you need them.

Lisa Starr
Life/Corporate Coach
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There are many ways people can be sick - mentally, physically, etc.  You could even feel sick but go to a doctor and nothing physically is going wrong.  It's the time of year that many people get sick.

Some things you can do when you get sick:

• Take Echinacea
• Take Garlic
• Drink Hot Sauce
• Get more sleep
• Drink more water
• Exercise more or less (depending on how you feel)
• Be less active
• Take off work (that, in and of itself may help)
• Drink hot liquids/eat soup
  
• Take Silver (you can find it at GNC)
  

Here are some things you can do to prevent sickness in the first place

• Get a flu shot yearly
  
• Take Vitamin C daily
• Get enough sleep nightly
• Exercise regularly
• Drink enough water daily
• Calm down your stress in your life (you'll have to take it easy when you get sick anyway)
• If you feel strain in your eyes (or stomach or wherever)
• Dream regularly
• Take care of stesses in your life right away

Have a good sleep.  That's where I'm headed now.

Lisa Starr

Life/Corporate Coach

You want to know the basics?  I bet you already do.  Eat well, exercise, get enough sleep, drink enough water.  Then, of course there's the not drinking or smoking anything that's unhealthy, which can be up for debate what all of that is.  Yup.  That's basically it.  I could end right here.

Yet, maybe you don't follow that.  Why not?  I know that's too easy to eat too many sweets around, especially around the holidays in America.  I know that it often tastes better to pick up soda pop rather than water.  I know that there's way too much stuff to do in order to get enough sleep.  I know that it takes effort and sometimes doing something you don't like to get exercise in each day, and maybe you get bored. Maybe there's too much other stuff to do to squeeze in the time to work out.  I've heard it all, and maybe you've said it all to yourself.

Why not make some - or ONE- new year's resolutions now, during the holidays?  What one unhealthy thing that you currently do, would you like to stop?  Or, what healthy thing would you like to start.  Or, what healthy thing do you already do that you'd like to do more of.  One thing can make all of the difference.  With Chinese medicine, if you strengthen the strengths, the weaknesses follow.  You can make a healthy difference - TODAY!  Why not make 2012 a year, though the end, of change?!

If you need help doing this, you know where to go.

Lisa Starr
Life/Corporate Coach
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I am.  Most days at work are decent, but today certainly was not one of those days.  I just feel like punching a wall, screaming, venting, or simply going to sleep to forget it all.  I love people, for the most part, but sometime, people just suck.

Do you ever have days like this?  What do you do?  What do you feel like doing?

One thing I know about bad moods, however, is if you stay in that mood without doing something active to turn your mood around, it will spiral more and more negative.  It's part of the law of attraction.  Nature abhors a vacuum.  If you remove something negative in your life without actively putting something positive in its place, more negative thoughts/actions will come. 

So, what do you replace your negative thoughts with?  That depends, what do you enjoy?  What makes you happy?  What brings you peace?  Even humming your favorite song or thinking of an ideal vacation can help.  For me, the negative feelings linger for a long period of time.  I have to do a LOT of positive to get me out of a negative mood.

I usually try to focus on what's most important - what I love most.  Usually, it's my son.  So, I forget my feelings or hurt, anger, hatred and play a game that he likes to play.  Then I read him books.  Then I sing him songs.  Whatever I can do to get my mind off the negatives.  And, sometimes, I'm frustrated with my son and don't want anything to do with him.  Then, it's time to be alone and listen to an uplifting CD or read an uplifting book.  Whatever I can to get my mind of the frustration of raising a 3-year old.

What helps you?  What frustrates you?  I'd love to hear it, especially if I can do anything to help.

Lisa Starr
Life/Corporate Coach
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I mean, do you really care about people?  Many people, and maybe all of us at times, pretend to care about others with our words, but really don't in our actions.  We pretend to listen only enough to talk.  We pretend to hear what others are saying.  Maybe we want to care more, but don't really know how.

One of the best books I've ever read was How to Win Friends and Influence People because it teaches us how to actually show people we care.  One of my favorite chapters in the book talks about how our name is the most important word in the world to us.  It's true.  Especially if you have a long or uncommon name.  Doesn't it feel great to hear people actually call you by your REAL name instead of a nickname?  Maybe you like your nickname better than your name.  Let me know.

Back to listening.  Listening, truly listening, is a skill that we don't usually learn when we learn how to speak.  We often are silent, waiting for our turn to talk, but we are not really HEARING.  When you truly heard, you know what the person said, possibly even what they actually meant or why they said it.  We can learn by our natural intuitive skills, if we allow ourselves to do so.  Listening, truly listening, and understanding are two essential parts of effective communication.

Do you want someone to listen to you?  Try me, I'll listen.  I'll listen to the point that I'll know how to help you, or simply that you don't want to be helped but simply want to talk.

Lisa Starr
Corporate/Life Coach

Do you like it?  Do you hate it?  Do you not care?  Maybe there are aspects of the Christmas season that you like and aspects of the Christmas season that you really don't like.  The trees, the lights, the snow, the shopping for presents, the receiving of presents, the putting up of Christmas decorations, the taking down of Christmas decoration are all often a part of American Christmas.

Many people in America, and in other parts of the world, don't even celebrate Christmas.  There's Kwaanza (an African-American and Pan-African holiday celebrated Dec. 26- Jan.1 celebrating family, culture and community, according to officialkwanzaawebsite.org), Hannukah (eight day celebration of a victory and rededication of a temple in the Jewish faith, which varies between November and December, according to Wikipedia.com).  Yet, all are aware of the celebration of the birth of Christ which is predominantly in the Western Hemisphere.

Going back to American Christmas, if you don't like it, what is the reason?  Could it be the loss of a loved one, a negative memory from past years celebrated, misunderstanding/ unbelief in what is celebrated, or something else entirely.  There can be many reasons for enjoyment/horror of the season.  If the way you feel about the season works for you, fine.  Yet, if it doesn't, and you'd like to know why, I'd like to help you.

I like many things about Christmas.  I like many celebrations enjoyed during the holiday season.  My husband and I have certain movies we like to watch (he likes to watch It's a Wonderful Life on Christmas Eve and I like to watch While You Were Sleeping and Muppet's Christmas Carol sometime during the holiday season).  I like to go to White Elephant parties (for those who don't know what they are - they are where you bring a gift to wrap - the gift could be candies, something you don't want, or even a roll or toilet paper) and I LOVE to go Christmas caroling.  In fact, I haven't gone Christmas caroling in a few years and I miss it.  What are some of your holiday traditions?

Lisa Starr
Life/Corporate Coach

I don't know much about it, other than it's trending on Yahoo and he died of pneumonia.  Zig Ziglar was a great man, who wrote many positive thinking/sales books, was a motivational speaker, and just kept hanging on, until he couldn't anymore. 

The only time I ever saw him in person was in 2009 or 2010 - I believe it was at this very "Get Motivated!" seminar pictured on the right.  He had a stroke and was up on stage with his daughter.  It was at a motivational rally that was mandatory through my husband's sales job at the time.  He didn't want to be there, but I just eat this stuff up.  It makes me feel more alive, more hopeful for the world and my future. 

Back to Zig, he was on the stage with his daughter and she was prompting him with questions.  He still had his spirits up and was making jokes up on stage.  His daughter had mentioned that he had recently had a stroke.  He kept saying one thing about marriage over and over again.  His daughter commented that someone in the audience must have needed to hear that, for Zig to say it over and over again.

I never even met the man, and never saw him in person in the prime of his life, but the news saddens me.  I just don't like good legends to die.  I wish I would've known him well enough to be invited to his funeral.  I love going to funerals because, they remind me to live each day as if I'm preparing for my funeral.  What do I want people to say about me?  Then I try to live into that person.

Anyway, enough about me, how do YOU respond to death?  Have you ever had a loved one (even if it's a cat) die?  Do you move on easily, or dwell on their life and the good times you had with them?  Neither one is right or wrong, just different.  Grieving is definitely an important process in life, whether it lasts a few days, or a lifetime.  Moving on with life after a loss is often a hard process.  I mean, how do you stay all put together on the outside when you just are falling apart on the inside?

Living with loss is something that all of us experience in life.  Some do it alone and some need help.  I'm here for you if you need help.  I'd love to hear any experiences you've had, either with loss, or with Zig Ziglar.  May a great man rest in peace.

Lisa Starr
Life/Corporate Coach
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